How To Break the Cycle of Trauma That’s Ruining Your Life

All the worst things is life — stress, bad habits, and self-hatred — are all rooted in trauma.

Matt Gangloff

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When I’m stuck in the Cycle of Trauma, being in my head is torture.

There’s this voice that runs on repeat — it’s my Inner Critic. It tells me all the things that I should do. Things that I need to achieve. Milestones I need to hit. Habits I need to build or get rid of. But, at the same time, it drains the very energy I need in order to do those things.

So, I cope. I try to shut it off. Then, I feel guilty about how I’m trying to shut it off. The cycle repeats and gets amplified until the voice tells me that I (and everyone else, for that matter) would be better off if I was dead.

I call this pattern of thinking The Cycle of Trauma.

Sound familiar?

The Steps in the Cycle of Trauma

Step 1: Stress — I feel anxious, depressed, bleh.

Step 2: Coping — I do things to feel better but gravitate to things that aren’t so…healthy.

Step 3: Self-Attack — I blame myself for the stress and how I cope with it, causing more stress and…well, you can see where this is going.

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Matt Gangloff

I teach the how-to’s of Post-Traumatic Growth: How to heal and grow, find a new mission, become your best self and build a meaningful life. www.mattgangloff.com